"......Yes Mum. I am gay" Those words knocked the wind out of me; like a sack of garri had fallen on me. Chima. My son. Gay?!? How? When? “I can’t exactly explain the “How”, but I have been aware of my attraction to men for a long time now. For more than half my adult life and… Continue reading Coming Out – Mother’s Woe
Coming Out
“…Mum. I am gay”. How did we get here? You are gay. You have known for more than half your life. You struggled with it at first but you are at peace now. But you are also a Nigerian; culturally both don’t inherently go well together. You grew up in a moderately Christian home -… Continue reading Coming Out
Dear Nigerian Homophobe
As life-long members of the World Federation of Homophobes (WFH) – a federation which has been in existence for almost as long as homosexuals have been, I feel your opinions are not being respected enough by other members of the WFH during your daily knees up. Here are a few areas I think you could… Continue reading Dear Nigerian Homophobe
It Takes A Village…..
“It takes a village to raise a child” I love this African saying and its practice in the community has huge benefits to a child’s formative years and indeed all the way into adulthood. But like everything in life there are disadvantages. Everyone in the community contributes in whatever way they can to the child’s… Continue reading It Takes A Village…..
My Blatino Oasis 2017 (NSFW)
I finally got my ass over to Palm Springs, California for the Blatino oasis gay event late last month. Something I had been thinking of doing for the last 6 years but couldn't, due to (in no particular order) work commitments, personal finances, weddings and a morbid fear of being used for target practice by a… Continue reading My Blatino Oasis 2017 (NSFW)
Hell or High Water – A Short Film
A few days ago, a friend sent me a YouTube link to this Nigerian gay-themed short film titled, Hell or High water presented by The Initiative for Equal Rights (TIERs), a Nigeria based NGO. Though the film is only 30 minutes long and void of the usual Nigerian gay stereotype characterisation, it is quite incisive, emotional… Continue reading Hell or High Water – A Short Film
Sex In Dubai
A pop up message appeared on Scruff; warning about the illegality of same sex sexual intercourse in the UAE, The legal penalty subject (14 years in Prison) and that offenders were subject to Islamic laws (It wasn’t clear what that meant, but I reckon as a minimum would involve lashes and not of the S&M kind. I am thinking “12 years A slave”)
Crap I Get On Grindr XI
Not really sure what to say here. Would I be called a racist if I say "no" to his "Asian" question? I don't agree with the term "Sexual racism" (please click here for my thoughts), but let's say I did for a minute, shouldn't questions like "Are you into Asians?" be abhorrent to those who say… Continue reading Crap I Get On Grindr XI
How Keredim Got His Groove Back…..Almost
He was dark skinned, handsome, had an athletic build and bountiful pert rump you just wanted to marinate in spices, grill and make it last for days.
On Moonlight and Reading Critical Reviews #BlackOutUKfundamentalreadings
"Dealing with a crack addicted mother and the broader community context is not really comparable to mephedrone fuelled sex parties..."
Sagba Chronicles 