Continued from Coming Out – Crossroads Although you going back to see your Dad would mean disrupting your plans to binge watch a Netflix series, you turn right. Carpe diem and all that. The conversation is going to happen at some point. Better to have it now that you feel recklessly confident than dwell on … Continue reading Coming Out – Impasse
It is a routine visit to see your parents. One you carry out once, sometimes twice a month. You spend two or three hours with them. You talk about everything but nothing. You help them fix anything that needs fixing around the house, but usually you help find a “missing” icon on the Ipad or … Continue reading Coming Out – Crossroads
Hello fiends, I throway salute o!! It’s been a minute. In my previous letter I said I'd try and help you look less asinine in the World Forum of Homophobes (Click here to recap). Not an easy task and I am under no illusion that it will happen in my life time. But as the … Continue reading Dear Nigerian Homophobe II
"......Yes Mum. I am gay" Those words knocked the wind out of me; like a sack of garri had fallen on me. Chima. My son. Gay?!? How? When? “I can’t exactly explain the “How”, but I have been aware of my attraction to men for a long time now. For more than half my adult life and … Continue reading Coming Out – Mother’s Woe
“…Mum. I am gay”. How did we get here? You are gay. You have known for more than half your life. You struggled with it at first but you are at peace now. But you are also a Nigerian; culturally both don’t inherently go well together. You grew up in a moderately Christian home - … Continue reading Coming Out
A few days ago, a friend sent me a YouTube link to this Nigerian gay-themed short film titled, Hell or High water presented by The Initiative for Equal Rights (TIERs), a Nigeria based NGO. Though the film is only 30 minutes long and void of the usual Nigerian gay stereotype characterisation, it is quite incisive, emotional … Continue reading Hell or High Water – A Short Film
So it’s Christmas day and I see a missed call from my aunt. (The same one who prayed for a wife for me in the Prayer click here). I had sent her some cash for Christmas, earlier in the month and half expected her to call me to acknowledge receipt. In fairness I did try … Continue reading The Prayer II – Finding Jesus
This morning on Twitter, I came across this video of Pastor Steven Anderson, blasting the South African Home Affairs Minister Malusi Gigaba, for wanting to ban him from entering South Africa. The Pastor who is known for his homophobic hate speeches, is due to visit South Africa in a few weeks to spread the gospel. An … Continue reading Pastor Steven Anderson – What About The Children?