Nigeria Recognises Same Sex Marriage

While planning a quick getaway Kasie Anyawu, realised his Nigerian passport was due to expire a few weeks after his wedding day and had to be renewed. Weeks later after the wedding, he set about completing the online application form for his passport renewal. Not quite used to being married, when it came to answering … Continue reading Nigeria Recognises Same Sex Marriage

Conversation With The Barber IV

Previous haircuts   Conversation I, Conversation II, Conversation III It was mid-April. The London weather finally acted on the memo it received 3 weeks before and allowed the sun to raise the temperature to just above 200C. As is the norm, once there is any hint of sunshine, Londoners regardless of the actual temperature outside and their body … Continue reading Conversation With The Barber IV

Dear Nigerian Homophobe II

Hello fiends, I throway salute o!! It’s been a minute. In my previous  letter I said I'd try and help you look less asinine in the World Forum of Homophobes (Click here to recap). Not an easy task and I am under no illusion that it will happen in my life time. But as the … Continue reading Dear Nigerian Homophobe II

Coming Out – Mother’s Woe

"......Yes Mum. I am gay" Those words knocked the wind out of me; like a sack of garri had fallen on me. Chima. My son. Gay?!? How?   When? “I can’t exactly explain the “How”, but I have been aware of my attraction to men for a long time now. For more than half my adult life and … Continue reading Coming Out – Mother’s Woe

It Takes A Village…..

“It takes a village to raise a child” I love this African saying and its practice in the community has huge benefits to a child’s formative years and indeed all the way into adulthood. But like everything in life there are disadvantages. Everyone in the community contributes in whatever way they can to the child’s … Continue reading It Takes A Village…..

Hell or High Water – A Short Film

A few days ago, a friend sent me a YouTube link to this Nigerian gay-themed short film titled, Hell or High water  presented by The Initiative for Equal Rights (TIERs), a Nigeria based NGO. Though the film is only 30 minutes long and void of the usual Nigerian gay stereotype characterisation, it is quite incisive, emotional … Continue reading Hell or High Water – A Short Film

Conversation With The Barber III

Previous haircuts - Conversation I & Conversation II Tired of looking like I was auditioning for the title role in the sequel of Django and also tired of my mother thinking I was heading to Turkey to cross the border into Syria, the other week, I decided to have a long overdue haircut and a … Continue reading Conversation With The Barber III

The Prayer

So its my last day in my village, near Owerri, Nigeria. After four days, no kinsman or woman has asked me the dreaded marriage question.  I thought I had a lucky escape, until I popped into an Aunt's shop to tell her I would be leaving the tomorrow morning and to give her some money. … Continue reading The Prayer

Conversation With The Barber II

The last time I mentioned my barber was in January, it is now August. That doesn't mean that I have been running around looking like I am auditioning for a part in a Blaxploitation movie. Quite the opposite. I have been to see him and been having my hair cut, just that we haven’t had … Continue reading Conversation With The Barber II