Coming Out – Mother’s Woe

"......Yes Mum. I am gay" Those words knocked the wind out of me; like a sack of garri had fallen on me. Chima. My son. Gay?!? How?   When? “I can’t exactly explain the “How”, but I have been aware of my attraction to men for a long time now. For more than half my adult life and … Continue reading Coming Out – Mother’s Woe

Hell or High Water – A Short Film

A few days ago, a friend sent me a YouTube link to this Nigerian gay-themed short film titled, Hell or High water  presented by The Initiative for Equal Rights (TIERs), a Nigeria based NGO. Though the film is only 30 minutes long and void of the usual Nigerian gay stereotype characterisation, it is quite incisive, emotional … Continue reading Hell or High Water – A Short Film

The Prayer II – Finding Jesus

So it’s Christmas day and I see a missed call from my aunt. (The same one who prayed for a wife for me in the Prayer click here). I had sent her some cash for Christmas, earlier in the month and half expected her to call me to acknowledge receipt. In fairness I did try … Continue reading The Prayer II – Finding Jesus

The Prayer

So its my last day in my village, near Owerri, Nigeria. After four days, no kinsman or woman has asked me the dreaded marriage question.  I thought I had a lucky escape, until I popped into an Aunt's shop to tell her I would be leaving the tomorrow morning and to give her some money. … Continue reading The Prayer