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Man In The Mirror

It has been a while. It has been a year. I am not sure why it has taken me so long to update the blog with a new post, but I think I will put down to the global COVID pandemic situation and the ensuing lockdowns. I think it has impacted me mentally more than… Continue reading Man In The Mirror

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Nigeria Recognises Same Sex Marriage

While planning a quick getaway Kasie Anyawu, realised his Nigerian passport was due to expire a few weeks after his wedding day and had to be renewed. Weeks later after the wedding, he set about completing the online application form for his passport renewal. Not quite used to being married, when it came to answering… Continue reading Nigeria Recognises Same Sex Marriage

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Press Statement

Some of you may have noticed the lack of updates on the blog since the beginning of the year. I have had to take some time off blogging due to a couple of  life changing events recently, which have caused me to pause and do some deep soul-searching. As part of the introspection, I had to… Continue reading Press Statement

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Dear Nigerian Homophobe II

Hello fiends, I throway salute o!! It’s been a minute. In my previous  letter I said I'd try and help you look less asinine in the World Forum of Homophobes (Click here to recap). Not an easy task and I am under no illusion that it will happen in my life time. But as the… Continue reading Dear Nigerian Homophobe II

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Coming Out – Mother’s Woe

"......Yes Mum. I am gay" Those words knocked the wind out of me; like a sack of garri had fallen on me. Chima. My son. Gay?!? How?   When? “I can’t exactly explain the “How”, but I have been aware of my attraction to men for a long time now. For more than half my adult life and… Continue reading Coming Out – Mother’s Woe

Homophobia · Nigeria · Sex · Social Commentary · Tolerance

Dear Nigerian Homophobe

As life-long members of the World Federation of Homophobes (WFH) – a federation which has been in existence for almost as long as homosexuals have been, I feel your opinions are not being respected enough by other members of the WFH during your daily knees up. Here are a few areas I think you could… Continue reading Dear Nigerian Homophobe

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It Takes A Village…..

“It takes a village to raise a child” I love this African saying and its practice in the community has huge benefits to a child’s formative years and indeed all the way into adulthood. But like everything in life there are disadvantages. Everyone in the community contributes in whatever way they can to the child’s… Continue reading It Takes A Village…..

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Hell or High Water – A Short Film

A few days ago, a friend sent me a YouTube link to this Nigerian gay-themed short film titled, Hell or High water  presented by The Initiative for Equal Rights (TIERs), a Nigeria based NGO. Though the film is only 30 minutes long and void of the usual Nigerian gay stereotype characterisation, it is quite incisive, emotional… Continue reading Hell or High Water – A Short Film

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Conversation With The Barber III

Previous haircuts - Conversation I & Conversation II Tired of looking like I was auditioning for the title role in the sequel of Django and also tired of my mother thinking I was heading to Turkey to cross the border into Syria, the other week, I decided to have a long overdue haircut and a… Continue reading Conversation With The Barber III

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Pastor Steven Anderson – What About The Children?

This morning on Twitter, I came across this video of Pastor Steven Anderson, blasting the South African Home Affairs Minister Malusi Gigaba, for wanting to ban him from entering South Africa. The Pastor who is  known for his homophobic hate speeches, is due to visit South Africa in a few weeks to spread the gospel. An… Continue reading Pastor Steven Anderson – What About The Children?