Conversation With The Barber IV

Previous haircuts   Conversation I, Conversation II, Conversation III It was mid-April. The London weather finally acted on the memo it received 3 weeks before and allowed the sun to raise the temperature to just above 200C. As is the norm, once there is any hint of sunshine, Londoners regardless of the actual temperature outside and their body … Continue reading Conversation With The Barber IV

Crap I Get On Grindr IX

  Reading is fundamental😏   Tired lines....🙄   He asked. I kinda answered..🚶🏿     Every gay black man's dream. I couldn't possibly refuse....I packed a weekend bag💼🏃🏿   Finally agreed at £450. Please don't judge me....Food prices have gone up 30% last 2 years...😉

No Sex Please, We Are Facebook.

Early on Valentine’s Day after being on Mark Zuckerberg’s good side for a good stretch, his crew flipped on me. I was banned from using Facebook. What really piqued me about the ban and its timing this year was that I missed the mawkish valentine’s day messages, between grown men living together, appear on my … Continue reading No Sex Please, We Are Facebook.

Crap I Get On Grindr XIII

After years of suppressing  his sexuality,  a friend recently came out of the closet and told his close friends and family. The level of acceptance by all told is encouraging considering he is Nigerian. Buoyed by his new found freedom to be his authentic self  he hits Grindr, as you do and below happened Damned … Continue reading Crap I Get On Grindr XIII

Dear Nigerian Homophobe II

Hello fiends, I throway salute o!! It’s been a minute. In my previous  letter I said I'd try and help you look less asinine in the World Forum of Homophobes (Click here to recap). Not an easy task and I am under no illusion that it will happen in my life time. But as the … Continue reading Dear Nigerian Homophobe II

Movie Review: Call Me By Your Name

I will be brief. Without giving anything away that is not already out there, this film is about Apricots. Yes, Apricots. It is set in summer somewhere in Northern Italy, in the early 80s when white folk threw their limbs all over the place in the name of dancing to music….It is now 2017 and … Continue reading Movie Review: Call Me By Your Name

Wild Thoughts

The hustle is real, so off to work I go. I do the 10 minute walk to the London Underground station. I have my headphones on. I am listening to music from my “recently played” playlist set on random selection mode. There are 175 songs. Means songs from Classical, Musicals, Pop, RnB, Gospel, Hip Hop, … Continue reading Wild Thoughts

Movie Review: God’s Own Country

The last gay themed movie I saw without muscular guys dancing with their tops off in a night club and then copping off home with one or more guys to have wild drug induced sex all weekend, was Moonlight. Unlike most gay films, God’s Own Country is not set in the concrete jungle of a … Continue reading Movie Review: God’s Own Country

Coming Out – Mother’s Woe

"......Yes Mum. I am gay" Those words knocked the wind out of me; like a sack of garri had fallen on me. Chima. My son. Gay?!? How?   When? “I can’t exactly explain the “How”, but I have been aware of my attraction to men for a long time now. For more than half my adult life and … Continue reading Coming Out – Mother’s Woe