Continued from Coming Out – Crossroads Although you going back to see your Dad would mean disrupting your plans to binge watch a Netflix series, you turn right. Carpe diem and all that. The conversation is going to happen at some point. Better to have it now that you feel recklessly confident than dwell on … Continue reading Coming Out – Impasse
It is a routine visit to see your parents. One you carry out once, sometimes twice a month. You spend two or three hours with them. You talk about everything but nothing. You help them fix anything that needs fixing around the house, but usually you help find a “missing” icon on the Ipad or … Continue reading Coming Out – Crossroads
Previous haircuts Conversation I, Conversation II, Conversation III It was mid-April. The London weather finally acted on the memo it received 3 weeks before and allowed the sun to raise the temperature to just above 200C. As is the norm, once there is any hint of sunshine, Londoners regardless of the actual temperature outside and their body … Continue reading Conversation With The Barber IV
"......Yes Mum. I am gay" Those words knocked the wind out of me; like a sack of garri had fallen on me. Chima. My son. Gay?!? How? When? “I can’t exactly explain the “How”, but I have been aware of my attraction to men for a long time now. For more than half my adult life and … Continue reading Coming Out – Mother’s Woe
“…Mum. I am gay”. How did we get here? You are gay. You have known for more than half your life. You struggled with it at first but you are at peace now. But you are also a Nigerian; culturally both don’t inherently go well together. You grew up in a moderately Christian home - … Continue reading Coming Out
Thought I'd share this e-mail from my cousin Nduka, a few days ago…… Cousin Kere, how are you? I see you are in Lagos and it is turning into quite the event. I can’t wait for you to supply details when you get back to London. Meanwhile, while you were away I think I have … Continue reading Mum’s Soup
The last time I mentioned my barber was in January, it is now August. That doesn't mean that I have been running around looking like I am auditioning for a part in a Blaxploitation movie. Quite the opposite. I have been to see him and been having my hair cut, just that we haven’t had … Continue reading Conversation With The Barber II
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