Is it really necessary to racially vocalise one’s sexual desire in the heat of the moment? For example, while happily pounding away on a guy’s arse, he moans “Fuck me harder with your big black dick”. Now that turned me off for three reasons:
1) It sounded like I was in a low budget porn movie from the 80’s in VHS format;
2) His butt hole felt like it had done some serious mileage and it was not gripping my supposedly “big black dick”, so he had seen larger. (Black or otherwise). So he was lying!
3) I don’t like being objectified racially.
I promptly lost my “big black erection” and asked him to leave. No explanation, nothing. I wasn’t in the mood to give a lecture or get into a debate.
Ok, I might have over reacted a bit , but I wouldn’t be shagging a Brazilian and say, “I love fucking your Latin American ass”. It’s just not me. Or that time I met a mixed race guy who linked his parentage to Algeria, France, Italy and Zimbabwe. I could have said, “Oh I like fucking your tight French, Algerian, Italian-Zimbabwean ass.” – You see poor dialogue. Cheesy!!! Nice ass though!
Yes, we are all attracted to men from different races. Nothing wrong with that, but we don’t need to vocalise it in the middle of sex. Sometimes I wonder if guys say “I love being fucked by your big fat xxxxx* cock”, because they mean it or it is something they feel they need to say. You can think it, but please don’t say it. It may make you honest, but not necessarily make you a better person. A passion killer – definitely!!!
(*Side bar –Replace xxxxx with any race/country you like. Though I am told Indian or Chinese would not quite work…..I guess that is for another blog post )
As I have said before, so long as the ass is bubble, firm, clean and attached to an athletic or muscular body, I am down for whatever – safely! I don’t care if it is black, white, grey, yellow, green, red, purple or blue. (Hmm hold that thought. Some of those Navi men in Avatar were pretty hot….).
Please don’t get me wrong – I am proud of my colour, heritage and all that comes with it. I would not have it any other way. As a means of generic description, please use it, but not while we are shagging (no matter what your race is), there is a time and place and that is not the time. That is when sexual fantasy can become offensive.
Online too, I get the same thing. I don’t mind guys stating their racial preferences in their profiles: “Blacks only”, “Asians only”, “No whites please”, ”Thai boys only” or “Smurfs only need apply” It’s a preference, it’s a free website, you can say what you like and it gets straight to the point and we know where we all stand.
But I find that guys a different race than me, who don’t state what their racial preferences are, find it necessary to tell me they like black cock once we start chatting. Not sure if that is to flatter me, but my reaction is usually to find the “block” and “delete” icons.
I guess what I am trying to say is racial objectification during sex is not necessary. It can take away from the essence of the casual encounter. By the time both people are naked in bed, it would be pretty obvious what colour skin they both are. No need to gush all over it – like the dick/ass for what it can do, not for its colour.
And its not just racial objectification, apparently there might be a religious fantasy thing going on as well. Someone contacted me online last weekend and said, “How would you like to fuck some Jewish ass?”
Block and delete……….